Resolutions are Easy… Why is Goal Setting so Tough??
As Peter Drucker said,
“The best way to predict your future is to create it.”
People will spend more time planning their vacations then they will planning their 2018 goals and dreams.
If we could achieve want we wanted in our lives by literally writing it down and reminding ourselves daily, why wouldn’t we?!?
I’ve heard some push back about the goal board at the gym(s).
- Why can’t we just write a simple goal down?
- Why do we need to add all the other stuff on the list?
I personally struggle setting goals for myself too. Even though I’m really good at being disciplined and raising expectations for myself. But why the heck is writing down what I TRULY want out of life hard for me?!? Am I a perfectionist? Has past failures built lack of belief in me? Or is it simply a lack of vision and clarity?
The truth is that I don’t really make resolutions anymore. I actually make fun of them😜
In my view, resolutions are very wishy-washy. Write something down that makes you feel good in the moment –> throw it in the dresser drawer –> no plan of action –> re-set the same thing year after year. The result; we get older + we get slower +we lose motivation = and this gives NYR’s a bad rap.
REAL Goals take much more effort, thought and work but the key is THEY ACTUALLY WORK! I realized that without accountability to someone else, resolutions rarely get accomplished. There needs to be deadlines, dates and checkpoints, which was explained in last week’s post (LINK). Second, something I picked up from Tim Ferriss (LINK) called “past year reviews” (PYR) more informed, valuable, and actionable than blindly looking forward with resolutions.
So, if your like me and it’s hard to start creating the goals and the life you want lets start by looking to your (PYR) like a “Goal Warm Up” (just like you would warm up for a workout).
It takes only 30-60 minutes:
- Grab a notepad and create two columns: POSITIVE and NEGATIVE.
- Go through your calendar from the last year, looking at every week.
- For each week, jot down on the pad any people and activities that triggered peak positive or negative emotions for that month.
- Once you’ve gone through the past year, look at your notepad list and ask “What 20% of each column produced the most reliable or powerful peaks?”
- Based on the answers, take your “positive” leaders and schedule more of them in 2018. Get them on the calendar now! Book things with friends and prepay for shit now! That’s step one. Step two is to take your “negative” leaders, put “NOT-TO-DO LIST” at the top, and put them somewhere you can see them each morning for the first few weeks of 2018. These are the people and things you *know* make you miserable, so don’t put them on your calendar out of obligation, guilt, FOMO, or other nonsense.
I’ll show you mine if you show me yours!
The O-Board Says…
A: Power Snatch
B: For Time:
10-9-8-7-6-5-4-3-2-1 of: Power snatches
1-2-3-4-5-6-7-8-9-10 of: Evil wheels
*2 pistols after each round*
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