10 Things Successful People Never Do Again (1 of 5)

“Never go back.” What does that mean? From observations of successful people, clinical psychologist and author of Never Go Back: 10 Things You’ll Never Do Again (Howard Books, June 2014), Dr. Henry Cloud has discovered certain “awakenings” that people have—in life and in business—that once they have them, they never go back to the old way of doing things. And when that happens, they are never the same. In short, they got it!

“Years ago, a bad business decision of mine led to an interesting discussion with my mentor,” Dr. Cloud says. “I had learned a valuable lesson the hard way, and he reassured me: ‘The good thing is once you learn that lesson, you never go back. You never do it again.’

“I wondered, what are the key ‘awakenings’ that successful people go through that forever change how they do things, which propel them to succeed in business, relationships, and life? I began to study these awakenings, researching them over the years.”

Although life and business (and health) have many lessons to teach us, Dr. Cloud observed 10 “doorways” of learning that high performers go through, never to return again.

Successful people never again…

1. Return to what hasn’t worked. Whether a job, or a broken relationship that was ended for a good reason, we should never go back to the same thing, expecting different results, without something being different. Isn’t that the definition of insanity??

2. Do anything that requires them to be someone they are not. In everything we do, we have to ask ourselves, “Why am I doing this? Am I suited for it? Does it fit me? Is it sustainable?” If the answer is no to any of these questions, you better have a very good reason to proceed.

3. Try to change another person. When you realize that you cannot force someone into doing something, you give him or her freedom and allow them to experience the consequences. In doing so, you find your own freedom as well. For those of us who are married this rings very true, doesn’t it??

4. Believe they can please everyone. Once you get that it truly is impossible to please everyone, you begin to live purposefully, trying to please the right people.

5. Choose short-term comfort over long-term benefit. “The pain of discipline weighs ounces compared to the pain of regret, which weighs TONS!” Once successful people know they want something that requires a painful, time-limited step, they do not mind the painful step because it gets them to a long-term benefit. Living out this principle is one of the most fundamental differences between successful and unsuccessful people, both personally and professionally.

Which of the 5 do you feel you are best at? Why?

How about the one you know you need to improve the most with? Tell us in the comments. 

Stay tuned for 6-10 next week… Found from success.com

The O-Board Says…

A. OverHead Squats
5 Reps every 2 minutes for 10 minutes

B. *AMRAP 12 minutes of…
15 OverHead Squats (Back Squats)
15 Deadlifts
15 Hang Cleans
*Partner style. One partner works the AMRAP. The other runs a 200m and then switch.

Post by Chris; @cmoknows