I recently entered the world of being a mom of a teenager and I am beginning to see the signs of the entitlement epidemic. We all want the best for our kids. We raise them to be good humans, teaching them right from wrong and how to treat others with respect; but in our loving attempts, have I really fallen into the trap of over-parenting? Am I robbing my kids the opportunity to learn from their mistakes? The world can be a scary place. They will encounter struggle, challenges and difficulties. It’s time for me to take action before it’s too late.
Strategies for turning the tide:
- Expect More – My kids are expected to help out around the house and in return they get to be involved in extracurricular activities. However the “help outing” is usually only carried through when asked. Time for us to reinforce a weekly chore list:-)
- Give-up on keeping them happy at all costs – when we drop everything to help our kids avoid disappointment, we teach them that their happiness is a top priority. The one thing I know my kids are entitled to is our love and undivided attention. When you add up all the time they are at school, asleep, with friends, at camps and other activities that don’t include me, the remaining moments become especially precious. Instead of focusing on the minutes each day, it’s about making the most of the moments you have together. Creative juices here we come!
- Stop rescuing them – I could not tell you how many times we have drove home over lunch or rearranged our schedules to drop off a forgotten lunch, gym shoes or practice jersey. We need to set expectation and help them brainstorm strategies to better problem solvers. My daughter loves sticky notes. She is a lot like me. I LOVE lists! My son…well that one is going to take some time to figure out.?
- Shut down the ATM – Instant gratification is king in today’s society. We don’t have to wait for anything thanks to Amazon Prime, Netflix, Siri i.e. I am guilty of handing over $20 here and there or buying the must have UA sweatshirt at Costco (it was a really good deal). How are our kids supposed to learn how to spend wisely, save or keep a budget? Time to break out a new list of expenses they are responsible for.
- Express Gratitude – this one is HUGE for me. It’s easy to get caught up with the things you want and overlook what is right in front of you. This takes LOTs of practice, as I myself am a student in the process. I need to continue to model this for them and remind not only myself but also my kids that the world does not OWE us anything. And the best part is research shows that grateful people are happier overall!!!
My kids really are AMAZING and I know by implementing some of these new strategies will make them even better humans!
The O-Board Says…
A: EMOTM 10
Misfit Clean Complex
1 Power Clean + 1 Push Jerk + 1 Front Squat + 1 Hang Squat Clean + 1 Split Jerk
B: AMRAP 12
10 Deck Squats
10 Box Jumps
Posted By: Nicole