I am writing this a week ahead of schedule. I should be packing but I am a little overwhelmed as tomorrow morning I depart to Washington, DC with about 80 soon to be 9th graders at BVHS.
As a self-confessed control freak, the thought of going with the flow has always been something that gets me anxious. While being a control freak is not necessarily a bad thing in all situations, if often gets in the way of me being present. Micromanaging every aspect of our life can be exhausting. And if you’re anything like me, you know exactly how tiring it can be.
So how can we learn to let go and enjoy more out of life?
Be honest with yourself.
Ask yourself where is this emotion coming from? Take a look at where, how and why you hold on tight to control. Is it because you have fear of the unknown? Or do we lack trust when it comes to our relationships or career? For me it’s definitely the fear factor.
Imagine what would happened if you let go.
We tend to control things to prevent something from going wrong. Question the validity of your fear by asking will the future drastically change in a negative way? If no, then let it go. On this trip the schedule is already laid out with no help from me on the planning end. My solo job is to chaperone, try not to embarrass my daughter and enjoy the experience. I will let you know how I do!
Stop worrying about the what ifs.
When someone micromanages every aspect of their life, they tend to forget how to live in the present because they have way too many things on their plate. We need to figure out what is most important. Complete those tasks and learn to delegate the rest, if possible.
Be mindful of what you do have control over.
I have already found myself complaining about flight times, the weather and food options…and I haven’t even left my house! Let’s face it, there are plenty of things we can complain about, but it’s a waste of emotional energy to focus on things we cannot control. One thing that I can control is my ATTITUDE! Try to grasp the fact that you can truly only control yourself — there’s no point in making yourself stress over things you cannot.
This is a key aspect of learning to have less control over things, and ultimately how to enjoy life more. Once you determine what issues you can be more flexible with, you may be able to use that energy for something more meaningful instead.
Learn to Trust.
To let go, we have to have faith that things will work out. Fear will only lead us down a slippery slope of worry and stress. This week I will be practicing my patience, doing a lot of deep breathing and trusting that it will all be OK.
A: OH Squat
B: 10 Rounds (1 round every 2 min)
10 OH Squats (95/65)
20 lateral hops