The Antidote to Being unHappy
“How do I make my prospective clients do what I need them to do? They’re stubborn.”
“How do I get my staff to perform better? How do I get them to focus on the outcomes they need to achieve?
You can extend the list of people that you want to do something different to all sorts of people, including family members, co-workers, neighbors, friends, gym buddies, etc…. The answer is always the same. But first, let’s talk about internal and external focus.
It’s Not “Out There”
One of the most effective ways to make yourself unhappy is to believe that your problems are “out there,” that they are external. It’s your family. It’s your co-workers. It’s your government. The source of your challenge is found outside of you, and because you believe this is true, you want other people to change for you to be happy.
When the outside world does not match your view of what it should be, you decide to be unhappy. Or frustrated. Or whatever un-resourceful and disempowered state you prefer.
Happiness Is an Inside Job
If you want other people to change, you must change. If what you were doing was producing the results you want, then you would have an effective strategy, and you would not have to change. If it isn’t working, then you have to change what you give people for them to change what they give you back.
If your clients aren’t agreeing to the commitments that you are asking them to make, then you need to change your approach, your strategy, your language choices. Maybe you need to create greater value for them in order to compel them to do something different.
Maybe your employees aren’t stupid, lazy, Millennials, or some other negative attribute that you could project onto others to make the problem “them.” Maybe they need to be led differently. Made they need something different to bring their best selves to their work.
The Antidote to Being Unhappy
If you don’t want to be unhappy, start with the belief that everything is your fault. If you are not producing the result you want, believe that it is 100% your fault, and that means that you are 100% responsible for changing whatever needs to change to produce the result you want. When you are responsible, you are also empowered. When you are empowered, you can make the necessary changes.
The question then becomes, “Will you change?”
The only person you control is you, and for most of us, that control is pretty tenuous. When you decide to change, you are working on the one person who is the root cause of all your problems, and the real source of what makes you unhappy.
What result do you want that you are struggling to produce? What do you have to change to produce that result?..
(inspired by Anthony Iannarino; LINK)
The O-Board Says…
10 rounds for Time:
10 Ring Rows
5 Man Makers
10 Broad Jumps
**100m Sprint after each round**
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