What Makes You Happy?
Being Happy Isn’t That Hard!
I listened to a great podcast last week about chasing happiness (thanks Lisa for getting me on Ben Bergeron’s podcast). If you don’t have friends that send you podcasts, find some friends that do! But never forget about those old friends 🙂
Anyway, Ben is Katrin Davidsdottir’s coach. He talked about how after winning the Crossfit Games, Katrin walked off the podium, looked him in the eye and said “I’m not as happy as I thought I would be.” She was already thinking about winning the games next year. A perfect example of how once we achieve something, it’s never enough. You want more or you want the next best thing.
- Once I lose 10 pounds, I will be happy.
- Once I have a 6 figure salary, I will be happy.
- Once I get a bar muscle-up, I will be happy. (I can relate to this one)
- Once I get married, I will be happy.
But we reach the goal and find that it didn’t make us happy.
So what makes us happy? According to the podcast, these are the 3 things that will make you happy.
- Gratitude – You get to go to work today. You don’t have to go to work. You get to go to the gym. You don’t have to go to the gym. You get to take your kids to soccer. You don’t have to take your kids to soccer.
- Giving – Not giving money or physical items but donating your time. Whether you are mentoring, helping at the banquet, volunteering your time to coach your child’s team or teach… all of these things are more rewarding than writing a check. And they will make you happy.
- Relationships – The last one is having deep, meaningful relationships. Your spouse, friends, children are people that you want to spend time with and they know you inside and out. You don’t have to have LOTS of friends but you need GOOD/CLOSE friends.
In my experience as a coach, I’ve found that I spend as much time helping people psychologically as I do physically. How can I help them be happy? I’m generally in a good mood and it’s just the way I am. I make the decision every day to be positive but it isn’t always easy.
So why do some people struggle with it more than others? Chasing unrealistic dreams or things that they think will make them happy, constantly buying things to keep up with friends and neighbors, trying to lose 10 more pounds because they feel fat. If you were happy, maybe you wouldn’t feel the need to try to keep up. Suddenly everyone is trying to keep up with you because you seem to have it all! Maybe true happiness is actually found by helping your kids at soccer practice, having coffee with a close friend and being thankful.
Happiness sounds pretty easy to me 🙂
The O-Board Says…
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