As we approach the new year we are filled with excitement, confidence, anxiety to embark on our new year goals/resolutions. We feel like millions of others ready to do the same. This is a great thing! But what actually happens every year? 70% plus of people quit their goals within the first 3 weeks! This is no secret.
Today my goal is to educate you on one of the BIGGEST reasons why those 70% end up throwing in the towel before January is even finished.
Listen, we are in the position we are in (financially, health and relationship wise) because of the thoughts, decisions and actions we have taken. For us to achieve our goals, things that we have never achieved, we are going to need to think, decide and act completely different than we are used too. My point is, achieving your goals is NOT going to be easy. The BIGGER GOALS the harder it’s going to be. You will slip up. You must get out of your comfort zone.
Mistakes are going to happen… A LOT! But that shouldn’t matter. That is what all achievers goes through, every time. We just don’t hear about the mistakes, we hear about the successes. But when it comes down to YOU and YOU achieving your goals the easiest and most common way we quit is because we make excuses for ourselves. It can start out slow and sneak up on us. Or it can stop us right away dead in our tracks. Regardless, here is everything you need to know about excuses and how to minimize if not avoid them for good!
What is an excuse?
An excuse is a justification for not doing or doing something. The dictionary defines an excuse as a reason. An excuse usually turns out to be something other than the real reason that motivated your actions or lack of actions in the first place.
The truth about excuses.
Excuses are never the reason for why you did or didn’t do something. Just a revision of the facts that you make up in order to help yourself feel better about what you did or didn’t do.
Making excuses will not change your situation. Only getting to the real reason behind the excuse can actually do this. Excuses are for people who refuse to accept responsibility for their life and how their life is turning out. Victims make excuses. Winners find solution, no matter how hard or long it takes.
Scary thing about excuses.
The more we use excuses the easier it is to use them. Excuses are the simplest way to let ourselves off the hook. The scary thing is if you continue to make excuses you will actually begin to (if you haven’t already) believe in the excuses you tell yourself and EXPECT bad things (your excuses) to happen. When you expect bad luck to happen you will naturally do the things that will bring you bad luck! Scary but true stuff. So you can ensure bad things will continue to happen to you in the future and not really understand why.
Take a look at those successful around you. Do you ever hear them make excuses? I bet not. Successful people in any arena simply do NOT make excuses… EVER! And that is why they are successful. They are actually the opposite. They are quite unreasonable when it comes to providing reasons at least for failure.
My ‘favorite’ excuses I most often hear:
- Don’t have kids
- Under worked
- Manager sucks
- No one told me
- I’m tired
- I’m depressed
- Competition is too much
Tough Question Time.
How many have you used?
Ask yourself, do any excuses ever improve your situation?
So why do you (or anyone) make excuses for yourself/themselves?
What is YOUR excuse?
Were you late because of traffic?
Are you not sticking on your new healthy diet because it’s too expensive?
You’re not making it to the gym because you are too busy?
Remember an excuse is is a justification for not doing or doing something. An excuse usually turns out to be something other than the real reason that motivated your actions or lack of actions in the first place. And just a revision of the facts that you make up in order to help yourself feel better about what you did or didn’t do.
So could the REAL reason you were late is you left your house too late to make it?
Eating healthy is too expensive because you just go to Whole Foods every time and continue to not look for better ways to save money?
You are too busy to go to the gym because you refuse to wake up early, take a working out lunch, or are too tired to go after work?
No matter what time of the year it is or how busy you get there are always going to be obstacles in your way to success. It is easy when everything works. It is when times get tough and how you find a way to succeed is what defines you.
“Nothing happens to you, it happens because of you.”
— Grant Cardone